Saturday, 17 November 2007

Sam - Ive Grown You and Now I Shove You Into Adulthood....

Ok......... This post was suppose to happen on Wednesday 14 November, but it became an impossibility to find the time to post owt until now...... :)



Ya see, my Sam turned 18 on Wednesday...... my 3rd son of 4... technically he would of been my 5th living child.... but shit happens and so I was grateful of delivering the most beautiful healthy child that took my breath away from the minute he was born......

He was a bit of a whopper at 9lb 4lb..... and now he stands just a tad under 6 foot and size 12 shoes and still growing...

He was only 10 days old when he got sick and lost half his birth weight and spent a fortnight in hospital on drips and with tubes trying to fight a lung infection...... but he was a fighter and eventually he came home just in time for christmas, he has a round mark at the base of his throat, thats where he had a tube put in, I tell him its his third nipple LOL.....



This is Sam at about 3 months old...

When his hair grew he had hair like Shirley Temple lol..... big long ringlets lmfao



I love my sons for whom they are as individuals cos they are all so completely different.... my Sam is the joker of the bunch...... he only has to walk in a room and he can make me laff..... he does daft things, stupid things at times and extremely danagerous things at times that makes me wonder how he has got to 18 lol

He is one of the funniest young people I know...... Ive raised this boy since he was 10 completely on me own, well with his brothers of course.... when I look at him my heart swells with pride and such love...... he aint been an easy ride for any of us......

Ya see, when he was just 4 1/2 years old he was crossing the road down in the village with me, he was holding on to me jacket as we crossed the road, cos I was pushing a buggy with his baby brother in and 3 minded nippers in tow..... the car went through a red light and as I turned my head as I heard it approaching at speed I knew it was going to hit us, but I was just that step infront of my Sam and it ploughed into him, knocking him 8 foot into the air and then coming down to land on the bonnet of the car which then knocked him 18 foot along the road (the police measurement)...... that is the day my world changed forever, that is the day that would affect the rest of our lives.... my child was laying in the middle of the road 18 or so foot from me all bent and twisted, I could hear someone screaming, that prime evil scream of dispair....... the man in the bank at the top end of the village heard this scream 100 yrds away...... that scream I realised was coming from me..... I thought my child was dead...... the world stopped and I walked ever so slowly to my child, he was bent and twisted and covered in so much blood that he was almost unreckonizable, someone picked him up, it was the doctor from the doctors surgery, that had heard the noise and had rushed out, ambulances arrived and police and someone took the minded kids off me and someone went to get my then husband...... and Sam was rushed to hospital fighting for his life......

He had smashed his femurs and had lost most of the skin off his little body, and had a crushed chest and the impact had pushed all his internal organs up into his ribcage, but he was alive and in icu...... he was in hopital for over 8 weeks....one of us there with him 24 hours a day, whilst the other was home with our remainding 3 children....

I couldnt post a picture of him cos they are to upsetting still....



This was Sam just a few months before the accident, aint he cute :)

I bought him roller skates and a bike for that first christmas home, there is no way I was gonna pussyfoot around him cos of his injuries, I needed him to be tough and strong and not a whimp and scared to do things in life..... he started his first day at school on crutches, he was only out of hospital 3 days when I packed him off to school...... he had already missed a third of the year, of his start at school and needed to be where he belonged..... learning and growing with his little friends, not wrapped in cotton wool at home with me........ aint I a hard bitch LOL

Anyways....... lots happened to our lives in the months after the accident, and it was the beginning of the end of family life as we knew it....... but thats another story LOL

So this gorgous child grew and grew, he became the most amazing sportsman, seeing as how the hospital said he would never be able to play competitive rough sports...... yeah, well like that was gonna stop my Sam or even stop me letting him try..... he played soccer and field hockey and Tchoukball and joined the climbing club as school and he became the most amazing bloody skateboarder ever...... and they said he would never play sports.... he proved the experts WRONG :)



This is Sam skateboarding off the garages over at the junior school carpark..... told ya he was dangerous lol

Sam has broken so many bones I cant list them all LOL..... and on his 18th birthday last wednesday we even spent the morning down the hospital with what was believed to be a broken wrist lol



This was on wednesday outside the Xray department (being refurbished) waiting for his Xrays LOL



Even with a broken arm last year it didnt stop him sussing out that if you stood on the sofa in this middle room and ya jumped backwards and timed it right so that your back landed on the giant ball, ya could do a backwards flip and land on ya feet LOL......

This boy was NEVER suppose to play sports LOL

He is also into Urban Tricking which is where ya do back flips etc off tall structures etc....... and my Jacob has just got into it, so many many more broken limbs to come......

He has no fear, he is an extreme skater...... but how funny is this..... he is terrified of spiders lmfao little cute tiny spiders......

He is one of the popular most young men I know, and has a huge aray of maties, most of whom come and go in this house like it clapham junction lol.....

As well as his love/passion for skateboarding his other passion is his drums....... he is one son of a gun freaking amazing drummer...... he is in a band called Miles From Anywhere, and they do all the local gigs and circuits....... he passion is music and he is at college doing a National Diploma BTech in Music Technology, he is in his second year 16-18 and then he can choose to go on to uni or do whatever he wishes.... the choice will be his......



His drumkit has cost me a fortune over the years lol..... but how can a parent not encourage a passion..... its more then a passion...... he has a gift...... a gift that will be there in any downtimes in his life....



This is Sam during one of the Battle of the Band gigs during the year......

He is an avid gig goer lol and his most favourite band is NoFX which is a doodle punk band and he is always off to london to go watch gigs and somehow he and his maties always get to be invited onto the tour buses with the bands.... music is his passion in life...

There is so much I could write about my Sam, I could write a book on his exploits and the person he is....... he makes me smile, he aint perfect, and we have had our dingdongs with each other...... but he has compassion and a love of life of the like I aint seen in anyone his age before....



Sam just so makes me laff......



He has had hundreds of hair styles over the years but one of the best was this one that we did last year....... I aint no hairdresser but the fun I have with his hair LOL those are shaved bits in the side :)....

Just so much I could write about my Sam...... he knows that I love him with all I have, he knows that through thick and thin I will stand by his side and hold his hand if need be..... he knows I would lay my life on the line for him....... and I know it is all returned......



This is how he went out on halloween LMFAO...... sometimes I dispair, but he so makes me laff.....

So, what gift besides my wisdom did I give to my Sam on this birthday...... well, he has to wait until Monday for his pressie LOL...... its being delivered then.....

Ya see, my Sam does 3 long hard 8-9 hour days at college mon-wed and he now has a job 3 long long days a week to :) thur-sat.... he only gets sundays off to himself...... I am proud of this young man, I am proud of how far he has come...... I am so very proud to call him my Son...... my funny daft crazy extreme son....

Look, ya see, when me X left me alone with 4 sons to raise completely on me own.... I had to buy him out of our home, it was not easy, and I worked me socks off to keep a roof over my sons heads...... and I opened a savings account for my younger 2 sons...... so that when they turned 18 I could help them with that step into independance......(my older 2 who were 14 and 16 I had already placed something in line for them) every week for 7 or so years I have ferretted a few quid here and a few quid there away for them....... and this week I emptied Sams account to buy him his gift of freedom......it was something very important to me, ya probably wont understand what Im on about, but me matie Wendy (PT) does :) - so this is the gift that will be delivered on Monday for my Sams 18th birthday pressie from me......



His job came at the right time, cos the insurance of $3400 a year is up to him..... I hope he drives with care and safely.... I gave him the gift of driving lessons this past 6 months it cost me $800 to get him through his lessons and through his theory and driving test....... Ive now done me bit, I done all I can.......lets take bets on how long before he ditches the car LOL

His first little car....... so I send my son out into the world of adulthood...... I have done all I possibly can under extreme circumstance in life...... he have come through so many things together.... we have laffed at life when life was kicking us all in the teeth......... I hope he deeply knows how much I love and honour him and that no matter where I end up in the world..... I will always be there for him....



I LOVE this bad arse picture of my Sam LOL it would make a great album cover :)

Sam..... I know you dont even know about me blob, and you will never read this..... but I love you with all I have and I always will..... always...... HAPPY BIRTHDAY SON.....

Tom

Jacob


Enuff Precious Twaddle for a dark wet Saturday evening....

x

29 comments:

Jen said...

What a great tribute to your son. I love the part where you talk about always being there for him no matter what. That's the kind of mom I try to be and certainly the kind of mom I want to be when my boys are teenagers. I think that makes all the difference. Thanks, again, for sharing your life and wisdom with us.

her indoors said...

ah bless all those curls how cute is he!
this was yet another wonderful post, your love shines through and you deserve to be proud of Sam x

ciara said...

what a wonderful and loving tribute...how could i even come up w something to call ya after all that? lol you are a fabulous mom with sons that are just as fabulous. i can definitely understand the pride. i can't even imagine what it was like for you w all the things that happened to him when he was younger, but your perseverance and definitely his determination is something i really admire.

hope ya take pics of the look on his face when he receives his pressie because i would love to see it :) hey, can ya do me hair in the checkerboard style? i REALLY love that style...honestly.

love ya, lady xoxo

Akelamalu said...

After all Sam has been through it's obvious he leads a charmed life! You have every right to be proud of your fabulous son and be proud of yourself too for making him who and what he is.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SAM

PS He must be good he's a SCORPIO! :)

Cindy said...

I don't see how he could ever turn out any different than wonderful, you've done a fantastic job, raising him on your own. I give you lots of credit- it sure can't have been easy.

PS-I get the biggest kick out of your blog.

Scots said...

Marmy xxxxxxxx What a beautiful and loving 'blob' dedicated to your lad.

I am sure he'll love the prezzie ;o)

Sometimes Saintly Nick said...

This is one of the most heart-wrenching and inspiring blog posts I’ve ever read. Through smiles and tears, my heart goes out to Sam and you and your entire wonderful family.

Blessings to you all!

Casdok said...

It is amazing watching our children grow.
Lovely photos, you must be so proud.

Sophmom said...

Wow. What a story! And what a hunk he's become!! All I can say is I sure know the feelin'. Mine are 25, 22 and 19 and they are, absolutely, my heart. *sniff* *sniff*

toadman said...

Happy Birthday Sam. You've got an awesome Mum. So saying that, be respectful of her and don't wreck the car, ok?

Kati said...

LOL Happy (belated) Birthday to Sam!!!!! Glad to hear he came out of that accident fighting & stronger than ever. It's amazing what kids will not only pull past, but fight their way out of and wind up doing, if we just give them the chance. Those curls of his were incredible!!!!! In that picture he could have been Shirley Temple's twin brother. Too cute!!!!

You've got some great kids there, Toasty!

MarmiteToasty said...

~((((jen)))~ I can tell ya, sometimes it can be very difficult to stand there no matter what lol.... :) xxx

~(((her indoors)))~ 2 of me lads had tight ringlets until I had there hair cut when they was about 4ish...... it was cute then but now they would HATE it LOL..... yeah I loves my Sam.... well, most of the time lol......xxxxx

~(((ciara anyones for a shiny green car))))~ well believe me its been a long hard struggle at times lol...... more so over the past 7 years on me own.... but its been a fullfilling struggle.... I think LMFAO........ love you to xxxxx

~(((ake)))~ a charmed life indeed lol..... scorpios with that sting in their tails :)....xxx

~((((cindy)))~ welcome to the house of crazyness :)...... its not been easy, no wonder I look about 70 :) - ok, explain yaself woman.... ya get a kick?.....xx

~(((((Scottie))))))~ we sorted out his insurance yesterday, the car arrived in the morning and he was off out all evening :) his face was a picture of orgasmic proportions lol..... shit, can I say that about me son LOL......xxxxxxxx

~((((casdok))))~ welcome...... Ive often popped over to your blob.... you are an inspiration....... and yes they grow and grow and become whom they are...... sometimes with a little nurture from us, but mostly from their inner selves......xxxxxxx

~((((Sophmom)))))~ cripes I didnt think you were old enough for kids those ages lol....... my lads are now 24, 22, 18 and 14...... and ya wanna see a hunk :) click on the Tom link at the bottom of the post LOL....... and fanks...... Ive been blessed with all 4 very handsome sons....... :)xxxxxx

~(((((Saintly))))~ goodness, I never meant for anyone to have tears :)..... I only write from me heart...... thankyou.....xxxxxxxx

~(((((Toadie)))))))~ his first drive out last evening on his own lol well, until he picked up 4 of his maties and they went for a drive..... heart in me mouth lol...... and he did the dishwasher yesterday without being asked :)........ he is so chufted with his pressie and he KNOWS how lucky he is under extreme circumstances.....

His father didnt so much as send him an 18th birthday card...... *Shrugg*........xxxxxxxxx

~((((kati))))~ fanks :) he got the curls from me, there is a past post of an old black and white photo of me and one of him at the same age, except for the colour of the photo it is very difficult to tell us apart :)..... ya, I never wrapped him in cotton wall.... he is a DARE DEVIL lol......xxxxx

Jen said...

Mel, thanks so much for stopping by my blog. It's always a treat to get a comment from you. I just wanted to let you know that God loves a good challenge. He has enough love and patience and mercy for everyone, even you! :)

Lora said...

Always enjoy reading your blog Mel....haven't been by much, so I have alot to catch up on. Happy Birthday Sam ! Looks like alot of good ppl were born in Nov.....:-)

Ian Lidster said...

What a delightful and loving testament to your son.
Thanks for coming by mine and I found you, well, because you came by mine.
And anyone who has aspirations to make love in the snow is definitely worthy of visiting.

B.R.M said...

Marmie-

My Sam had a head full of curls until about the age of 5.

You just gotta love little boys named Sam.

Happy B'day to your Sam.

Love,

TN Becky

brentandrews said...

A fellow ripper! Nice acid drop off that school, Sam!

Katrina said...

What a sweet, sweet post! There's just something about sons; from the day they're born they waddle around with your heart grasped firmly between their fingers. I loved all the photos--it was like watching him grow up in super fast forward!

OrdinaryShark said...

Mel you know you're the best Mom around. Those boys are a reflection of your strength and character. Although with Sam-the-man I think maybe his dad was Gumby 'cause it sure seems that he has rubber bones. (I could do with some of those!)
And a car! Wow! How fantastic is that. (I'm glad he made it back that first night ;-) )All I gave Weaselboy on his 18th was a bicycle; and I made him build it as well!
Nothing better than a punk skater! He would be a welcome addition to the barn!
I know you will enjoy his anniversaries for years to come.
.

Catch said...

what a wonderful story Marmie and what a great gift you have for Sam! You have done a great job! He is a precious boy!!!! Happy Birthday Sam!!!

Mom not Mum said...

Happy Birthday Sam!!! What a fantastic tribute to him. How exciting to get a car!! I totally could see my boys jumping off the couch on to a rubber ball to see if they could bounce back up.

Queenie said...

That really came from the heart Marmie (you don't fool me with your hard exterior). I'll keep my fingers, eyes and legs crossed that angels sit at the four corners of his car.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SAM.

Ol' Lady said...

HAPPY BE-LATED BIRTHDAY...to you not him!!!
My opinion is that we as mothers should be the celebrated one. Each child is so lucky to have a mother that helps them get through each year...the light at the end of my tunnel with the girls has been that one day they will fly from the nest and go make their own way with the tools that Ol Man and I have taught them...it will be their choice as to what happens in their life...and I will/have changed the locks each time one has moved out :) only one more to go :)
Nice car...want to adopt me??? I could use another one :o

Akelamalu said...

PS I've posted the first of my Christmas Carols quizzes today if you fancy having a go. :)

MarmiteToasty said...

~((((jen)))))~ Your blob is always a delight to read :) and LOL@ 'even you' ....xxx

~(((lora))))~ Ive been busier then a tapeworm of late, I owe so many people so many emails :( Ive become an 'email slut' lol - happy birthday lora....xxxxx

~(((Ian))))~ welcome to what can sometimes be a mad house :) - and the naked snow love making bit, well, we all have to have something to aim for LOL...x

~((((brm)))~ yeah Sam is one of the best names, ya see, if they were to become solicitors they could be call Samuel, but if they work down the pit they can be Sam :), its a very adaptable name lol......xxxx

~(((Brentandrews))))~ welcome :) fanks for popping over from Dingleberries.... yep my Sam loves Skateboarding with such a passion, and has been getting through his decks at the rate of one about every 4 weeks :) - I bought him 3 decks whilst in Maine during the summer, cos the decks are at least half the cost in the states as what they are here........x

~(((Katrina))))~ and yep they grab ya heart and twist ya soul for a lifetime....xxxx

~((((((((((Sharkie))))))))))~ Nah nowhere near as good of a mum as I would love to be... :( its hard to be a mum and a dad all rolled into one...

Ive saved for 7 years for the car lol.... I'll explain the importance of it, mainly to me, when next I speak to ya on the phone.... you will fink its daft thou lol.... I bet weasel LOVED the bike, ya see, Sam dont have access to drive my big car, the insurance would be to high and I cant have the inconvenience if he pranged it :).... I think doodle kids have more access to parents cars....

Sam was so gutted that he choose not to come with me and Jacob to visit you in Maine during the summer, when we got back and told him all about the gigs in the barn and the whole trip, I knew he had made the wrong choice.... learning curve right? lol - hugzzzzzzzzzzz..... xxxxxxxxxx

~((((catch)))~ I have guided and nurtured and held his hand as best I could... its not always got it right.... but I gave it my all under the circumstances.... and yes, he is very precious... :) ....xxxxx

~((((MnM)))~ hehehe Sam and Jacob can jump off the sofa onto that ball and do a back flip and land on their feet LMFAO....xxxxxx

~((((Queenie))))~ now hush, Im 'well ard' and dont you forget it :)... I aint got a soft spot in me entire heart or soul....

Day 5 of having the car and its still is in one piece :)... except last night he parked it on the little baptist church forecourt right up bang against the church doors and has taken the keys to work with him....... AND.... there is a funeral in the church today LMFAO..... they will have to either lift the bloody coffin over the bonnet of the car or take it round the back door.... I will never be able to hold me head up again in this village LMFAO.......xxxxxx

~((((ol lady))))~ well ya see, he only has me and his brothers, his father is not a part of his life, even though he only lives 4 miles away....... Ive done the best I can with what I held in my heart.... aint always got it right, the rest is up to him.... he knows I will always be by his side, but most decisions in life now will be down to him :).....and the car, well 7 years of ferreting a little dosh away..... I was told once by my X that I would be out on the street and the children would end up hating me.... WRONG :)....xxxxx

~((((akelamula))))~ Ive been so busy and then knackered by the evenings BUT I will pop over today.... and try and catch up with everyone over the weekend- I WENT TO BED AT 9.30 LAST NIGHT lol Thats how knackered Ive been :)......xxxxx

Dan said...

God, time flies doesn't it?

This was a wonderful post. You sound like a terrific mom. :)

seenthatbefore said...

Grand. Well done.

Idaho Escapee said...

Hi...I read your comments over at Huckleberries, since I used to live in that area. You have humor (humour to you Brits), and obviously you're a good Mom. And your kid is gonna freak out when he gets that car. He is quite a young man, isn't he? Yer doin' good, Ms. Marmite...

MarmiteToasty said...

~(((dan)))~ cripes how honoured am I to have you post here :) welcome..... yep, time with this child has flow way to quick :( - and Im just like an other normal mum - but fanks......xx

~((((((Starr))))~ I thought I had lost you :) - 'grand'? lol you sound like Wallace and Grommit :)....xxxxxx

~((((Idaho Escapee)))))~ goodness, always a pleasure to have a Dingleberry comment here :) welcome.... he LOVED the car and touch wood has driven well proper and careful..... I feel a little redundant now though :( no more late night calls for a lift home from his girlfriends house or from gigs..... Im surplus to requirements lol.....xx