Wednesday, 11 April 2007

Happy Birthday Tom - To Day I Honour Your Birth

Ok............. 22 years ago yesterday, I picked up my bag and was ready to go have me second child...... technically this was to be me third child but in reality he was to be my second live child..... my first child was born 2 1/2 months early and only weighed 3.2 lb..... she did not survive....... which is strange really, cos me brother was born 50 years ago, one of a twin(one twin died at 6 months in the womb - long story) and he weighed just over 2 1/2 lb all those years ago..... and that was without all the technology of today......... oh well, thats how the cards are dealt.......

Anyways, I was almost 2 weeks overdue with this child......... so I was booked in to get this child moving.......... 10 hours of normal stuff and then after 11.36 hours of 'I dont care if this child has 3 arms, 4 eyes, no ears, is as ugly as a camel - JUST GET IT OUT NOWWWWWWWWWWW' my Thomas was born this Day 11 April 1985 - he was born on my brothers 21 birthday......

Tom 6

Tom is a few hours old here and didnt look to bad by now, unless its just where I was getting use to his looks LOL

After all that labour we didnt even make it around to the delivery room, he shot out and almost shot right off the end of the bed LMFAO..... that is NO word of a lie, ya see, the midwives were just changing shifts (unbelieveable right) and was busy chatting and putting on their sexy latex gloves, they didnt think he would be so quick....LOL at quick, yeah right almost 22 hours and they call that quick, well they wasnt trying to push a rhino out of a buttonhole......I think where he was so big (not my biggest by far lol) maybe the pressure built up inside and he shot out like a bat out of hell...... me hubby at the time *spit* just made it in time, ya see he went home cos he was tired LMFAO...so I did the last 9 hours on me own...... omg just about says it all...... he was FUCKING TIRED....... lol - that really to me should of been the first sign...... oh well hindsight is a strange thing.......

Anyways, my first born son was the most gorgeous beautiful huge eyed baby when he was born.......... my Tom my second born LOL and yes he knows the story.... was 9 lb 3 oz when he was eventually born, he was the most unusual looking baby I had ever seen - he was bald as a coot well except for this gingerish sort of fluff, and had a huge bright red strawberry mark in the middle of his forehead with sort of piggie eyes........ I know every mother thinks their child is the most beautiful creation, BUT there comes a cut off point..... this baby was like some bloody alien lol........ I remember saying to the midwife just a few minutes after he was born........ jebus, is he really mine and she replied....... Im afraid so LMFAO and we both burst out laffing....... I said....... any chance of putting it back and letting it cook a little more......... jebus we laffed......... but I was serious lol............ this child was one ugly duckling.........

So, the following day, I wrap this little alien up and bring him home....... after picking us up and taking us home my now X hubby buggered back off to work....... yep, dropped us home, opened the front door and he put his boots on and was out the back door with, 'I'll pick up fish and chips after work shall I' LOL

This ugly duckling grew and changed.....he most certainly had a mind of his own...... and was growing what seemed like inches daily....... by the time my Tom was 2 he was the same size as his 4 year old brother, one dark haired and one as blonde as an angel.... people use to think they were unidentical twins.....

Tom2

Being a tall kid had its disadvantages when young, people expected you to act ya size and not ya age........ oh well, their problem not ours......

My Ugly duckling was morphing into the most beautiful child.......

Tom4

When Tom was 6 he had meningitis, it was the most scariest time of me life...... I thought I was gonna loose this child before he had grown, oh jebus please dont take another from me........ but he came home from hospital weak skinny but all intact........ he got meningitis again when he was 8, and was almost at deaths door yet again, the doctors couldnt believe how unlucky we were, for this child to get this terrible thing twice........ BUT again because I saw the first signs my child came away with no long term affects (my sister had flown home from Bali at this time with menigitis and they think the connection was there??????)...... many children are left blind or have brain damage or have to have limbs removed with this illness...and many die..... someone was shining down on us get again.........

My Tom over the years has broken his elbow so badly that the doctors didnt think he would ever have proper use of his arm..... which turned out to be bollocks....... his only defect from falling 20 out of a tree is that he can bend his elbow about 8 inches the wrong way LOL its a GREAT party trick......... it didnt stop him playing the violin and piano or learning the drums......or playing football and rugby and it certainly didnt stop him becoming one of the best Tchoukball players his school had ever had......

Tom5

This was our start up drumkit....... seems funny looking back on that old little kit to what we have today.......

He has broken his foot whilst jumping over our back fence, he has broken so many fingers Ive lost count whilst playing Tchoukball...... he ripped his kneecap off his knee in a BMX accident and had emergency surgery......... as he has grown older has broken many a heart :)

Ive raised this child completely alone financially and emotionally since he was 14/15....... we have had many ups and down in those teenage years...... he at times was my cross to bare in life, somedays I didnt think I would ever get through them....... remember the caravan fire....... somedays, I could of walked away, somedays I so NEEDED someone else to care, someone to help me guide not only Tom but all 4 of me lads........ but it was just me....... I had to stick it out....... and my god........ what a beautiful wonderful special child my Tom has turned out to be........ he makes me laff, he makes me cry, he brings me tears of joy and sometimes even tears of heartache........

I gave my Tom the gift of college, his first year he did Art and Design, he is such a gifted artist, but realised that it would be difficult to find work in that field so he changed courses and did motor mechanics...... he didnt want to go to university, he wanted to get a job and earn money....... he works a 56 hour week, and never takes time off unless he is really poorly....... I am proud of my child..... one can only guide and nurture the rest is up to them......

.. he loves his brothers with a passion and I think he loves me..... the little things he does, tells me so....... I hope he knows that I would lay my life on the line for him without a second thought....

Tom

This was him last year on holiday in Greece, he turned 21 last year and it was his gift from me to him...... I thought you have to have something to keep for ya 21st...... what better to keep then wonderful memories of a holiday with ya girlfriend...... something to keep long after the engraved beer mug is broken, something to keep for a life time.......

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This is the lastest picture of my Tom - late last night - its amazing what one can do with a pringle lid and a few quickly drawn lines lol

So Tom.......... from Ugly Duckling to the most beautiful young man that you have become....my 6' 4" tall man ... I honour this day, and I honour you with my very Soul........ I LOVE YOU SON......... xxxxxx

More then enough Twaddle for today.....

28 comments:

Jade said...

You're such a great mom =) and indeed, you've raised a gorgeous boy ;)

Winters said...

Hello Mrs Toastie.

This is a great post. And I love marmite too. Some say it's bad, but i'm with you on the Marmite thing.

Refugee said...

Happy birthday to your Tom, Marmite. He sure came through his share of health and safety scares. It's nice to know that he is well.

Starr Kelso said...

Happy B to Tom.

green libertarian said...

Jeebus, Marmite, it's bloody lucky he's alive, eh? That's some powerful life force he's got going there after all that sickness and broken parts and such. And I know exactly where he gets it.

It would have been my brother's 58th birthday today, but he passed on 4 years ago, just before his birthday, inoperable brain tumor. He scrimped and saved his whole life and was gonna retire at '58. He had a good quality of life tho until the last 3 months, which he spent at my sister's in Texas and I visited twice when he was still ambulatory, we went on a long drive in the Texas Hill country, he always liked long drives.

Southwark Lad said...

wow, what a great tribute.

happy birthday tom!!

Jump to the Left said...

Happy Birthday to Tom.

You, er I should say, your ex, reminded me of a former boss. He told me that when his wife was typing his PhD dissertation for him, she went into labor. She was in the middle of the method section. He said that he asked her if she couldn't just finish that section before they went to the hospital.

I should have quit then.

Hindsight...

Peanut said...

Happy Birthday Tom.. :o) (hope your mum passes that message on for me..) Oh, by the way, did you know your mum umm.. volunteered you and your brothers for a ummm.. job?? ROFLMAO ssssshhhhhh Mel.. don't go sayin' what the job is on here! (nudge nudge, wink wink.. say no more! lol)

**wondering which one of your boys it was that answered the phone one time when I called you, Mel.. might even have been Tom, huh?

OrdinaryShark said...

This is so much more than twaddle, M-marm. It is wonderful stuff and I have no doubt that you are and have been a wonderful mom. The proof in in the considerable puddin.
Weaselboy was also bald as a rock in a fast stream when he was born, it's just that it kept that way for years and years. He had such fine light hair. He finally got his first haircut at five, not because he needed it but so we could cut a little locket off for his baby book and have a bloody date for "First Haircut." Sheesh.

Looks like you've cooked up a right proper lad there. A whole clump of 'em in fact. You've not only given him college and a trip on his 21st but you've given him something much much more valuble; you've given him your heart and soul and in return he's taken from you your values which will carry him farther than any job ever could. You done good.

Weaselboy isn't yet 21 but on his 18th birthday I gave him a custom bike. He choose the frame and every part and then put it all together; built his first set of wheels and put an expert true on em as well. That was the bike he then rode from coast to coast last year. It's amazing and wonderful what kids do.

Now where's that cat?

gazey said...

Yipeeeeeeeeee!!!! I figured out how to get back here....

(((MarmiteLady)))
I just love your blob site! I love the pics, I love the stories, but most of all, Ilove the creator of this all, you, my dear friend.
What a lovely tribute to your lad on his birthday... Happy Birthday, Tom.... wish I could be your slighlty older sister... what an awesom mom you have.
Take care (((M)))
* gazey *

gazey said...

oh, one more thing... how do ya'll get your avatar pics to display? I don't see anyplace to add one to the blog account... i am so pc illiterate....lol
thanks, folks
*gazey*

the psycho therapist said...

Oh, Happy Belated B-Day to your Tom. Please send my regards, will ya, and tell 'im to get the American accent down so he automatically knows it's me when I chat you up.

Thanks, you.
:)


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MarmiteToasty said...

Wow - fanks for stopping by....... sorry I didnt get back to any comments, only I took us all out to The Char-bar last night to celebrate Toms birthday...... wonder if you have the char-bar over there, it was mentioned last night that if/when me doddles maties come visit we most certainly will eat at the Char-bar :) - anyways......we didnt get in til real late and I was cream crackered, so I went to bed.....


~(((((Green)))))~ now it is my turn for the tears..... Im so sorry for your loss.... this day now will always hold a little saddness for me, because no matter where in the world I will be, I will ALWAYS think of you especially on this day (((((((((Green)))))))) love you xxx



~((jade))~ :) yep he is gorgeous aint he lol

~((winters))~ welcome :) - yep, its love me love me marmite breath...

~(((refugee)))~ the broken bones etc are usually cos I let me lads push themselves..... there was a time, with me 4 lads that we always seemed to be down the casualty department of the hospital lol ..... at one time I had one son in hospital in traction with a badly broken femur (8 weeks) and while he was in there I had my Ben in the eye part of the hospital with a pencil in his eye ..... its when the staff start using ya first name that ya need to worry lol

~(((Starr))))~ fanks matie..... my Tom would so be into guns if he lived in the states, alas over here he only has BB guns etc..... but god we have fun with them.... but thats another story......xx

~((DoodleLad))~ :) x

~((Jump)) it was what it was at the time..... I know that I have so much more still to give that special someone, oneday......xxx

~(((Peanut)))~ they are getting suited and booted up as I type :) - I'll let you know what time they land lol xx

~(((((Shark)))))~ well I always read it back and think, what useless twaddle lol

I dont know about wonderful mum, I know there are times when my lads would tell you different lol.... but I can only do/be/guide the best I know how.... if thats not good enough, well, Ive done the very best that I could possibly do, under extreme circumstances..... :)

Wow, great about your lads bike..... coast to coast? as in from the right all the way over to the left of the staples? xxx

~((((Gazey))))~ oh my, how happy am I to see you here :) - and oh hush with ya stuff..... Ive a 'well ard' reputation to with hold over here ya know lol - know that I loves ya to :) - glad ya like the pictures into me world of madness....... they be a wonderful bunch of loons on me blob......

please this is me wonderful friend Gazey....

and ya do better then me on the computer stakes gazey cos you called it a avatar, I called it 'that little picture next to ya name' lol - I aint sure, BUT I think you have to just put a picture on your profile and then it comes up with ya nic..... but then Im just a dinlo, so what do I know ;) xxxxxxxx

~(((((((((Wendy))))))))))~ we are practicing our accents, I'll tell ya what, some (like JBelle's hubby) DIDNT have a clue it was me that rang LMFAO...... see I can be a doodle lol.......xx

Fanks maties..... just fanks xxxxxxx

OrdinaryShark said...

Marmy - don't be dinlo. He flew out to the other Portland with three maties and then, after riding to the coast to dip their wheels in the left side ocean they made their ways, past the staples in the middle all the way back to the right side. They did stop in Indiana for their only scheduled stop, a week long punk festival.
Kids.

The Fool said...

Hi M-Toasty. Your posting stands as quite the honour to your Tom and your love for him. Happy Belated Birthday, Tom! And if you're reading this...give your ol' mom a hug...you're a lucky dude.

Have a great day, Marmie.

Kati said...

Happy Birthday to Tom!!!! I hope he has a great coming year! And congrats, Toasty, on raising such a fine son!

JBelle said...

What a STUD!

Happy, happy birthday Tom and many returns of the day. ;)Present on the way.

JBelle said...

What a STUD!

Happy, happy birthday Tom and many returns of the day. ;)Present on the way.

Lora said...

Happy Birthday Tom......I think that was about the best thing I have ever read Mel ! Your picture is alot different than I imagined. You look a little jaundiced, your skinny and what's that red thing on your head ??

MarmiteToasty said...

~(((Shark)))~ ROTFLMFRSSO@ you know what I meant by 'the staples' Im well impressed lol x

~(((Foolie)))~ Im thinking I will bin it, its maybe spilling to much of my soul /deep sigh... xx

~((kati))~ fanks x

~((JBelle))~ we just need to hook him up with your girl lmfao, we could be in-laws LOL - AND DONT YOU EVEN THINK ABOUT A PRESSIE, please, you know what Im like LOL xxx

~((((lora)))))~ welcome back :) - oh that red fings me 'wattle' or is it me 'comb' oh I dont know, ya'd better ask Shark, he be the chicken man ;) lol xxxx so ya like me little dancing chicken :) xxxx


Im in a right ole proper reflective strange mood this week..... I know, as does one other...... sigh.... this to shall pass LOL just like after ya eat to much brocolli :) which by the way is me favourite as is sprouts and parsnips ........ LOL hark at me just waffling on like a loon (as Starr would say - so I thought I would get in first) lol

x

The Fool said...

Oh Marmie - HA! I'm such a sleepyhead! That wasn't Etzel's doing...his was a deliberate play on a typo of mine...and I didn't catch either. Thanks for clearing the cobwebs. The flock of gay parrots has departed for England, and they should arrive soon. I'll let you & Etzel deal with them (he's in England too).

:) Too funny, matie...I had no clue as to what was going on...and it was my own doing.

MarmiteToasty said...

ok someone turn the god dam lights off and unplug everything will ya..... Im to knackered to give a buggery lol....... and seeing as there is no one around to talk to, I might as well bugger off me self........

Fanks maites xxxxxxxxx sleep sweet xx

ps....... I know I aint really going to bed yet LOL

Starr Kelso said...

Either turn your clocks back to the Center of The Universe time...or go to sleep ya loon.

Refugee said...

{{{{{{{{Marmmite}}}}}}}}

green libertarian said...

Forgot to say happy birthday to Tom, forgive me, hope you guys had a great time.

Side Note said...

And many more!

Wondering said...

April is a great "son month". I have an April son and he is superior.

Happy Birthday Tom and many more. You have a great Mom...but I'm not telling you anything you don't already know.

MarmiteToasty said...

~((Starr))~ dont you know we have the only proper time here GMT :) x

~((Lynn))~ x

~((Green))~ gawds sake, nowt to forgive xxxxxxx

~(((SideNote)))~ cheers :) x

~((Wondering))~ April is grand but I have to spread meself cos I have lads birthdays in March April June and November :) x